This piece had so much information about a guys "world" that its easy for anyone to get an idea of what life is like for a young man. "Bros Before Hos" opened my eyes to what men really face on a day to day basis, how the simplest words and actions may effect there image.
When i first looked at the title i had imagined this story would be about the guy code for how they act towards women. I thought this would be a piece about all the rules guys follow pertaining to choosing there friends over other women or the very popular rule of not stealing a friends girl. Much to my surprise this was about a different set of rules, the guy codes for maintaining there man -hood and staying in the masculine category.
My Initial perspective was that men couldn't have it tougher than a women. Women have to deal with so man changes and standards throw there way that men couldn't possibly compare. Though after going deeper into the piece i started to see that maybe beneath there cool exterior they did have problems on there mind. I have always heard those comments the author used as examples in the text, whether they were towards my brothers or other male friends but i had never taking a moment to really think about the effect it had on there development. One rarely sees the power a few words could have on a child who looks up to you, i think that's why men take so strongly to what is said to them by the male figures in there lives, because they look up to them.
One statement that really caught my attention was when the author said " Homophobia is...the fear of other men-that other men will perceive you as a failure, as a fraud." This really struck a cord with me because i have seen so many insecure men be homophobic but the men who are calm and never try to be super masculine are always the ones who are completely fine with being around a homosexual.
This piece opened my eyes to the power words could have over someone if they are constantly hearing it growing up. By the time a boy is considered an adult a simple joking phrase like "that's gay"or "big baby" means a lot more to him then what is written on the surface. I think over all as a society we need to stop trying to categorize everything we do and trying to find a definition for every action. We should learn to live and enjoy, maybe then there wouldn't be so many suicides or columbines in our world.
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